What’s wrong with me. WAS MY CHILDHOOD THAT BAD?? pLEASE HELP?????
i CAN’T REMEMBER ANYTHING ABOUT MY CHILDHOOD,EXEPT A FEW really bad things. My sisters talk about reall, really bad things that happen to them when growing up. But I only remember a few, But I hear my friends talk about things that happened to them way far as 4 yrs old, and I don’t. SHOULD I GO UNDER HIPNOSIS TO FIND OUR?????? Do you all remember way back as 4 yrs old, I just have a few (ten things) to remember from my childhood, and I feel so empty. WHAT SHOULD I DO??????????????
i JUST FEEL THAT THINGS, AND I AREN’T RIGHT FOR NOT REMEMBERING, OR KNOWING. PROBABLY BY REMEBERING I CAN MOVE ON WITH THINGS IN MY LIFE??? I FEEL LIKE IF I DIDN’T HAVE A CHILDHOOD AT ALL???????
whatever memories you have had and are bad memories, maybe you have repressed other bad memories of when you were younger. Although I dont remember when I was 4 years old either and thats because my childhood went along without any problems……I was just a kid and did kid things. Not a lot of people can remember when they were younger than 5 anyway. I would not be going into hypnosis because if something bad happened to you as a child then you will remember when you are good and ready. The mind has a way of protecting us…..it represses things we cant handle and it will only become clear when we are ready to deal with it……if, in fact, there is anything to deal with. I wouldnt be getting too stressed because maybe there is nothing to remember and the memories that you do have are the only ones you have. It’s the stuff you can remember that needs to be dealt with, not the ones you cant remember. If your childhood (what you can remember of it) is causing you to be miserable and unhappy then maybe its time you dealt with the memories with a qualified counsellor. Anything else that needs to be remembered will usually come out with counselling. Maybe you are stressing yourself out over nothing and maybe there are no bad memories other than the ones you remember. Dont just to conclusions just because you cant remember when you were 4. I cant remember either, but it doesnt mean anything bad happened…just that my childhood went along without a hitch. If you are really concerned then go talk to a counsellor, but think very carefully before you consider hypnosis….that would be the last resort.
Forget the past and start living in the present.
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it’s a defense mechanism. there’s a reason your subconscious won’t let you remember.
let it go.
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if u start digging up old memories, u just might get dirty. live your life for today. it will become a never ending spiral if you undergo hypnosis cause u are gonna want answers and a lot of things that you do not know will be revealed. Hey, maybe God x’ed that part out for a reason.
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If you are over what you remember of the past then there is no reason to go back there and dig up more stuff and set yourself back. Go forward and know that you make tomorrow happen. Use the past only to make sure that mistakes back then don’t go forward with you. Good luck.
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First of all, yes, the earliest memory I have is around 4 years old.
Second, can you talk to someone in your family about your childhood? You shouldn’t have to do hypnosis. That is what family does and sometimes, lol, they bring up things that are embarrassing. Like, "Remember when Linda was three and she forgot to tie her shoes and tripped over the strings?" That kind of stuff.
This situation should be talked over with your parents and other family members. Or if you are not comfortable with that, talk to a professional. You should feel empty and, to me, it is a serious situation and should not be asked in this forum.
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if u really want 2 know & let it go then u should do yoga. it will help u find urself & help u get over any thing u may find out. good luck living in the now.
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Memory can be selective, if your childhood memories are only of bad things then that is what has stayed with you. You do not need to uncover other memories from your childhood unless there is a reason too for your well being now. Each family member will remember their experiences only even if they are similar to other family members.
Early childhood memories are also reliant on the individual and how they imprinted on their memory at a particular age. Some people can remember events from as young as two years old others may not remember anything until they were five years old.
I am more concerned about your statement of feeling so empty. You need to ask yourself is this emptiness due to your not being able to remember things with your sisters or, is it because there is something else underlying it.
Speak to a counsellor and see what happens from there.
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Best wishes.
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whatever memories you have had and are bad memories, maybe you have repressed other bad memories of when you were younger. Although I dont remember when I was 4 years old either and thats because my childhood went along without any problems……I was just a kid and did kid things. Not a lot of people can remember when they were younger than 5 anyway. I would not be going into hypnosis because if something bad happened to you as a child then you will remember when you are good and ready. The mind has a way of protecting us…..it represses things we cant handle and it will only become clear when we are ready to deal with it……if, in fact, there is anything to deal with. I wouldnt be getting too stressed because maybe there is nothing to remember and the memories that you do have are the only ones you have. It’s the stuff you can remember that needs to be dealt with, not the ones you cant remember. If your childhood (what you can remember of it) is causing you to be miserable and unhappy then maybe its time you dealt with the memories with a qualified counsellor. Anything else that needs to be remembered will usually come out with counselling. Maybe you are stressing yourself out over nothing and maybe there are no bad memories other than the ones you remember. Dont just to conclusions just because you cant remember when you were 4. I cant remember either, but it doesnt mean anything bad happened…just that my childhood went along without a hitch. If you are really concerned then go talk to a counsellor, but think very carefully before you consider hypnosis….that would be the last resort.
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I remember stuff from before I was 2. When I talk to my grandmother, she can recall stuff from before 3.
How far does your memory go back? A lot of things we remember from early on are more of the frightening things for children than the joyful things For me it’s a lot of embarrassment that I remember. I remember those because end up learning the most from the mistakes you make.
Of course what I cannot imagine what it’s like to grow up neglected. I know that I always grew up loved. If I hadn’t known love I probably couldn’t have respected myself enough to have survived adolescence without abusing substances. My influences were always loving parents and family, never my peers. I cannot imagine being raised by an abusive parent. With love, I was always my own person, from my earliest of memories.
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Jess..
Sometimes people just dont have good memories.. plain and simple.. i personally think u shouldnt bother with hipnosis.. i mean the past is the past just that, why dwell in it especially if it wasnt exactly a good time in ur life..??? Just to feel the pain and hurt again????????? Stop dwelling on what u dont have and dwell in what u do have..
Jess my parents divorced when i was 4 but they were seperated for 2 years and during that time my mother would come over for dinner ect.. i have no memory of my parents being "together" i have a few from while they were married but none of those memories are of the two of them, all my memories seem to start when my dad got remarried.. its as though that life previous is none exsistant, and for a very long time it would eat away at me the not knowing, the lack of memories, my brother and sister having so many memories and i dont have even one.. and to top it all off theres not even 1 photo of me , my mom and my dad while they were married always seperate pictures with each.. but eventually i realized that all it did was hurt me and those around me to dwell into a past that wasnt pleasant not for me or anyone involved, and i started focusing on what i do have.. .and it made me alot happier..
Life is to short to dwell into something that only seems to bring sadness , worry, anziety etc.. "if" u blocked things out, there was a reason for it.. just let it lay locked up , its not going to change who u are now, nor the control that YOU have over ur life now..
good luck..
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